elizabeth and peter got married on the coast of new hampshire last weekend.
i give my life to you, they promised each other and then we played croquet and ate lobster.
tim smiled at me and said "you must be so happy. this is all so barefoot contessa."
he was right. i was. it was. and oh how i love her. i love how she and jeffrey live.
remember when she said something like...
people are always talking about how marriage is hard. i don't get that.
i just want him to be happy. he just wants me to be happy. it's simple really.
i'm a bit mortified that it took us so long to figure out how simple it really is.
if tim and i said "i give my life to you" on our wedding day, we lied.
the only truthful promises we could have made to each other that day would have been...
i promise to put you through hell and make you wish you never met me. daily. for years.
i promise to blame you for everything and take no responsibility whatsoever for anything.
i promise to deny for you what i demand for myself.
i promise to look for the worst in you and bitch about you to other people.
i promise to hurt you.
the beginning of the end of hell on earth came one day about 15 years ago.
i had just ridiculed tim in front of people and was bitching about him to my mom.
she looked at me with tears in her eyes and said...
when you talk to him like that... (her tears fell)
the way you talk to him... (more tears)
you are so ugly i can't even look at you.
and then she walked out of the house.
everything changed after she said those words.
15 years later and we know how simple it really is.
i just want him to be happy and he just wants me to be happy.
we give our lives to each other every day. who we were. who we are. who we will be.
we have come to see that you get what you give.
if you want love, be loving.
if you want respect, be respectful.
if you want sex, be sexy.
if you want happiness, be happy.
if you want peace, be peaceful.
go first. don't wait for the other person to change. it doesn't work that way.
it's that whole be the change you wish to see in the world thing.
it's that whole do unto others as you would have them do unto you thing.
it's simple really.
this is one day of a 31 day series about living in a peaceful home.
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peace be with you,