have nothing in your house that do not know to be useful or believe to be beautiful. - william morris.
tim and i think our unconventional night stands are very useful and quite beautiful.
but what if you disagree about what is useful and what is beautiful?
how do you come to a peaceful solution?
this is a reposting of the first blog post i ever wrote...
once upon a time a husband-to-be packed one of his most prized possessions in a box.
yeah, it smelled bad. and yeah, you could see the bullet hole.
but oh how he loved that kangaroo pelt.
a gift he was given that summer in australia.
best. summer. ever.
first apartment. moving day. boxes.
she opens one marked “oz”.
the stink fills the room. oh. hell. no.
she sees the bullet hole. horrified tears.
first married fight.
believing that love is an act of the will and not always a feeling,
she swallows her pride, holds her breath, and hangs the stinky thing over the fireplace.
believing that people matter and stuff doesn’t, he takes it down and puts it back in the box.
for years the battle wages. she hangs it up. he packs it away. selfless love.
or so i wish…
actually, when tim was at work one day, i threw that kangaroo pelt in a dumpster.
tim noticed about a week later.
i yelled that it was disgusting and i hated it and it stunk. i even worked up a tear or two.
i broke his heart a little that day.
(he laughed when he read that, ’cause it’s wicked funny now)
stuff doesn’t matter. people matter.
a house becomes a home when it reflects the people who live there.
ALL of the people who live there.
a home filled with what you both love is beautiful.
it tells your story.
when we both choose love, an act of the will…
when we both are more concerned for the well being of the other…
when we both give in, bend, let go…
when we both put each other first…
there is peace.
this is one day of a 31 day series about living in a peaceful home.
click here to read the rest of the series.
peace be with you,