redesign your marriage. redesigning your marriage is all about learning to love well.  when we don’t love each other well, life is no fun. loving well is a learned skill, it doesn’t come naturally. it takes practice and commitment. whether you are getting married or have been together for what feels like forever, we will tackle problems like this… how do we stop fighting about the same things? she makes such a big deal about everything. i don’t know if i can do this anymore. our sex life sucks! does he even hear me cry myself to sleep? i don’t know what you want me to do. maybe the kids would be better off if we separated. did i marry the wrong person? for more on coaching and counseling, go to our blog.